Seriously, I really can't see your messages to respond to them. I apologize. I'm only a standard member. That being said, . . "Hello!" I'm JoEllen! I am a pre-op transgender female, born a boy by mistake. My mind, soul and all other non-physical attributes are, and have always been female. I'm simply correcting the defect. I am actually quite ordinary, as women go, in my values and the things I desire in life. I'm a girl-next -door type of personality, very "wash and wear" and easy going. I have a good sense of humor and appreciate that quality in others. As a transgender, I have lived as a female for well over a decade. I am ready for surgery and I'm now waiting until I can save up enough to actually have it done. I do my best to be the best person I can be. I hope that I make friends and meet gentle, like-minded souls who respect themselves and others. I hope to find men who can & will see me for the good and decent per that I am and who will respond likewise to my openness and willingness to extend friendship and kindness. I hope to find open-minded, good-humored individuals who make judgments based solely on the content of one's character and who are able to have a conversation with me that has structure and substance and which does not necessarily have a sexual component to it. I'm certainly not saying that sex isn't possible. It is but, it shouldn't be the only g you can sing. Please treat me with dignity, civility, respect and all of the kindness you would hope one would show to your sister, cousin, aunt, mother or friend. If you do these things, good things will follow. The main things I will look for are the quality of your character and your level of intellectual and emotional maturity.

Min Idealperson A man who is mature, gentlemanly and intelligent. Intelligence is truly the best aphrodisiac I know of. I also like creative thinkers, artistic and/or creative personality types and also I find one's ability for understanding and personal restraint to be equally attractive. Ultimately, that is to say, in a perfect world scenario, I would hope to find the "Love of my Life", my future "Husband", even but, I have begun to believe that such desires may never be fulfilled in my lifetime. It seems that the males of this generation are no more advanced than those who came before them. They tell me that such a man, however rare, does in fact exist but, I have thus far found him to be quite elusive and and seemingly mythical . . . he is my "mythic whale", not unlike like Moby Dick. So, your friendship is, or would be a very fair and welcome consolation prize. Let me amend that. Your friendship and understanding would be most welcome - period. Thank you.