We are fun loving couple looking add another man into our relationship. She isn't looking to have a lot of guys but looking to add the right guy. We would like something that's in and out of the bedroom. We don't want a guy who is just here for the sex and then takes off. We want a friend too. She would like someone who will take her out at times and have some quality time alone with her. Married guys - we don't know how this could work. One part of the reason for this is he's on the smaller side and she prefers something a little bigger. =============================================================== Laura Comments: I have had some wonderful chats with men here (and some that weren't so wonderful).  Many have asked the same questions so I thought I should add my comments to the profile. The question I am asked the most is why I want to do this.   First please know I love Oliver and that will never change.  However, soon after we married I felt there was something missing.  Soon I realized that that something was another man.  A man who fills in the things I feel I am missing with Oliver.  It took me a year before I told Oliver how I felt. We had very difficult conversations.   Over the course of nearly a year and lots of talking, Oliver has come to understand my feelings and fully supports me in this. He is even as excited as I am about finding the right guy for me. We are often asked what Oliver's involvement would be.  Would he be there all the time?  Would he participate?  There is no simply answer answer to that.  No he would not be there all the time.  I want a lot of time alone with my "new man" but if the mood is right, we can include Oliver.  It may be that he is never included. Oliver and I had a nice chat the other night and I explained to him that when I find the right guy I will need to build a relationship with him.  To do that I will need significant time with him and that I would need to exclusive with him during that time.  I told Oliver I expect that time would be 4-6 months.  That amount of time surprised him but he is OK with it now. So what I am missing with Oliver.   Oliver is smart, funny, charming and would do anything for me. We like the same things and he is my soul mate.  What I am missing that I desire from another man is hard to put into words.  I hate to say I want someone who is more manly but that's part of it.  If you look at Oliver's picture you will see a wonderful, handsome, fun loving guy. What you don't see is a strong man who goes for what he wants.  A man to take charge some.  Oliver is also lacking a bit in a key area.   I don't need a man that is enormous but more than Oliver has would be wonderful.  There are other questions I am asked constantly.  So here are some answers: - Yes I would want our sex bare.  I need that to feel a connection to the man.  - As often as possible.  Daily would be wonderful but difficult. At least a few times a week.  - Overnight stays would be the best! Or spending a few days! We bought a bed that's in our spare room for Oliver so there's plenty of space and privacy here. - I don't think I can be with a married man who needs to sneak around.   I wouldn't feel right about that! If you want to know more, please chat with us!  We do run out of points often, so if we don't answer that's probably why. ===============================================================

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 Oliver is smart, funny, charming and would do anything for me. We like the same things and he is my soul mate.  What I am missing that I desire from another man is hard to put into words.  I hate to say I want someone who is more manly but that's part of it.  If you look at Oliver's picture you will see a wonderful, handsome, fun loving guy. What you don't see is a strong man who goes for what he wants.  A man to take charge some.  Oliver is also lacking a bit in a key area.   I don't need a man that is enormous but more than Oliver has would be wonderful.